tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post2540625084287933990..comments2023-10-02T02:12:34.125+11:00Comments on loved handmade: courage..mel @ loved handmadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11089482748571082995noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-44304694611229252072012-10-10T20:49:58.547+11:002012-10-10T20:49:58.547+11:00Hi and thanks for such an honest post on a difficu...Hi and thanks for such an honest post on a difficult topic. I am glad you have trust with your son but i am not sure that any child, no matter how well equipped can handle this sort of situation. What if it never stops? What if it gets worse? Long term stress in children can be quite profound. I feel adult intervention is a must, bullying is mostly about power and your silence gives them rockmelon recycledhttp://itstartswithme.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-34450715370236931622012-10-04T22:31:04.040+10:002012-10-04T22:31:04.040+10:00Oh Mel, this makes my heart so heavy.. I fear thes...Oh Mel, this makes my heart so heavy.. I fear these scenarios when mine are at that age and I think you are handling it superbly, yes you may have to slowly push him to do something he is not sure about but I am the terrible Mum that would have gone storming back to the school with my blood boiling. My hat goes off to you well and truly xTessa Whitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12173085007473641503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-18003598134815074142012-10-03T16:20:19.679+10:002012-10-03T16:20:19.679+10:00How awful, Mel! I've got tears for your boy an...How awful, Mel! I've got tears for your boy and I hope you update us on how he's doing soon. He is so brave for wanting to sort this out himself, but sometimes it's even braver to risk getting other people involved. xMaxabellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15761220164069379437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-10852531234490168682012-09-28T14:28:58.770+10:002012-09-28T14:28:58.770+10:00Oh yuck. I hope he is coming around to see that t...Oh yuck. I hope he is coming around to see that the school really needs to be told what's going on. I agree that you need to wait till he is ready too so that he continues to trust you and tell you things. It is soooo important that he has your support in this. Hope it resolves sooner rather than later. xLionessLadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17751001700549851045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-49996086410018301522012-09-25T22:09:09.625+10:002012-09-25T22:09:09.625+10:00Oh Mel this is just awful I feel for all of you, i...Oh Mel this is just awful I feel for all of you, it is such a difficult situation to be in. I would be so very mad that this has happened, that this boy has become physical it's just not what should be happening. I often wonder what sort of home life a child has to resort to violence to get their way. I do hope that a resolution can be made soon to stop this sort of behaviour happening Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11314373295390794669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-70231946669135561682012-09-25T21:50:20.752+10:002012-09-25T21:50:20.752+10:00What a heartbreaking situation. The more this goes...What a heartbreaking situation. The more this goes on silently, the more the bully has the upper hand and unwittingly your son is playing his game. It will take enormous courage to speak out and overcome the fear of being friendless, but how does he know how many others are cowering in fear of the bully and waiting for someone to break the silence. It may not be a good idea to go to the bully'Naturally Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15999271127735997770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-67883892030944995962012-09-25T21:47:05.575+10:002012-09-25T21:47:05.575+10:00what a horrible awful situation. But how brave and...what a horrible awful situation. But how brave and special is your boy! it takes huge amounts of courage to do what he is doing. <br />It is also a great reflection on his parents.<br />I wish I could give you the "right" answer or some great advice, but well I don't have it, sorry. because it's the real rock and hard place scenario.<br />love to you and him xoteddybearswednesdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06068878478604992309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-5854603904880336752012-09-25T21:28:23.425+10:002012-09-25T21:28:23.425+10:00This is incredibly hard on you and an awful situat...This is incredibly hard on you and an awful situation. The greatest thing you have with your children is trust. You have brought your son up to be brave and honourable. You must be very proud. He knows the situation on the ground and the consequences of having his parent involved. I'm not advocating this situation at all but your son is growing strength from it. There must be another wayLisanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-65239417148957614172012-09-25T21:19:35.797+10:002012-09-25T21:19:35.797+10:00How awful and heartbreaking. I agree, you have to ...How awful and heartbreaking. I agree, you have to report it and take action in case it gets worse.<br /><br />It sounds like his biggest fear is loosing his friends, but real friends would never want their friend to get hurt. <br /><br />Wishing you all the best with dealing with this. xxChristina Lowryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18370046598325657449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-67979901163482912012012-09-25T21:02:14.099+10:002012-09-25T21:02:14.099+10:00Thanks Jane, it is serious I know. I still believe...Thanks Jane, it is serious I know. I still believe we have a great school, and a terrific principal. I know that as soon as he is made aware there will be appropriate action. Aggressive behaviour and bullying is not tolerated, but of course if they don't know, nothing can change. We do intend on informing him, we just want our son to be in aggreance, so he doesn't feel we've betrayed mel @ loved handmadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11089482748571082995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-70822964063776501022012-09-25T20:49:44.842+10:002012-09-25T20:49:44.842+10:00Oh Mel. That is shocking. Your poor little man. Ha...Oh Mel. That is shocking. Your poor little man. Having been bullied at school myself, I have an inkling of what he might be feeling. <br /><br />But the lawyer in me says that the school has a clear duty of care to look after him. They've been derelict in their duty. It's negligence. They're just lucky he didn't break a limb or something. <br /><br />Please see the principal and Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02743336097657087832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-18760417585724275592012-09-25T19:39:26.456+10:002012-09-25T19:39:26.456+10:00What a nightmare! It is fantastic that you have s...What a nightmare! It is fantastic that you have such a great relationship with your son, and I can understand your reluctance to go against his wishes with respect to reporting it. But perhaps it has reached the point where you have to do what you need to, as parents who want the hurt to stop and the bully to be brought to account for his appalling behaviour. It's a tough one, and the Fionahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14760725362420044243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-8036005936605762892012-09-25T18:47:55.273+10:002012-09-25T18:47:55.273+10:00That's so sad, kids are just so mean. I hope h...That's so sad, kids are just so mean. I hope he is ok and you are ok<br />XxxxxxTessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15853527845935021474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-23303116317622058692012-09-25T18:15:41.576+10:002012-09-25T18:15:41.576+10:00It's gutting. I'm not convinced it wasn...It's gutting. I'm not convinced it wasn't witnessed, we'll get to the bottom of that..mel @ loved handmadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11089482748571082995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2322042642405470297.post-4417110703163809122012-09-25T18:07:34.014+10:002012-09-25T18:07:34.014+10:00Oh God I feel sick reading this and totally unders...Oh God I feel sick reading this and totally understand how upset and angry you must be feeling, it's awful that your son has been physically hurt like this and nobody even witnessed it, I wish somebody else could see it and grass the child up who's causing this. Maybe you could talk to his teacher without naming names and get her to tell a general bullying story and its consequences, alsoThrifted Treasurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06977265626746630973noreply@blogger.com